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Monday, February 10, 2014

5 Reasons "ME" Time for Mom is So Important

When I chose to be a mom I had no idea what I was getting into. I thought I knew. But let's face it, all I really knew is that I wanted to have babies! I wanted babies more than anything! Little did I know that those babies only stayed small for a short time and the job of being a mom would test me as a person more than any other possible experience. It's crazy hard, and yet, I do it willingly again and again. I have found more joy in motherhood than I could possibly find in any career, hobby, or talent. Yet, I still find it necessary to have a career and hobbies and to develop my talents. Here's why...

5 Reasons Me Time for Mom is Important. Read this and loose the guilt! www.entirelyeventfulday.com #motherhood #parentingadvice


Reason #1
You are a person! I swear sometimes my kids don't get this. I can't tell you how many times I have heard the words, "Because you're the mom" come out of my children's mouths. I remember feeling that way about my mom when I was a kid. I felt like certain things were her job because she was the mom. I didn't care much for her feelings, I didn't really consider the fact that she was indeed a person. It's true that as a mom you are responsible for your child's well-being, but, just because you're the mom doesn't mean you wait on your family hand and foot. It's important to take time for yourself to do something you love to do and do it just because. Give yourself permission, you don't need permission from anyone else. Taking time to remember that you are a person will actually make you a better mom.


Reason #2
You can't help others until you help yourself. You know when you're on the airplane and the flight attendant gives the safety instructions. In the unlikely event of a change in cabin pressure... secure your mask first... and then assist others. I think of this just about every time I head out the door to go to the gym or for a night out with my friends. Sometimes it doesn't feel like the right time to go, I have a lot going on, I'd rather veg on the couch... but when I go and do something that helps me connect to myself, I feel so much better. It makes me a better mom too!


Reason #3
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. When I am away from my kids for a few hours, or heaven forbid, a few days, I am happy to see them when we're reunited! My first child did not leave my sight for the first year and a half of her life. I took a job coaching a high school volleyball team for a short time while she was about one and sometimes I could bring her with me and sometimes she hung out with my mom for the hour I coached. I had to quit because I couldn't stand being away from her FOR ONE HOUR. I felt like I should be with her, caring for her, every single moment. I remember when I quit that little job the head coach thought I was crazy for not being able to leave my baby with my mom for an hour. I thought she was a jerk. Here's the thing, that worked for me at the time. I was so smitten with that child there was no where else I would rather be. Eventually I loosened my grip, although I am still obsessed with all my kids and have to know where they are and what they are doing at all times. Now they don't necessarily have to be within eye shot. My oldest is 10 now and I really appreciate a couple hours, or even a weekend to myself.


Reason #4
I want to make them proud! What are your hobbies, passions, interests? Share them with your kids and take some time to develop your talents! Do not feel selfish when you do this. You're kids will love it. They will admire and look up to you for doing cool stuff. They might even brag about you to their friends. I grew up with a mom who was always there when we got home from school and had usually baked some whole wheat bread for us. She worked hard at being a mom. I really appreciate everything she did for me growing up, and the things she continues to do for me. That said, it always bothered me that she didn't really do anything other than be my mom. If you had asked me what my mom liked to do... well, I couldn't tell you. She had been a sculpter but she gave that up when she had kids. She used to paint, but she only did that when she was teaching us how. Thinking back I would have loved to see my mom claim a space in the house for her art studio and put aside an hour a day when she went in there and we weren't allowed to bother her. So I maybe take this to the extreme in the opposite direction. Being a mom is always my highest priority. BUT I love doing all sorts of fun stuff and my kids think it's super cool and totally support me!


Reason #5
Eventually your kids will grow up. One day my youngest is going to move out of the house leaving my dear husband and I to our own devices. Famed author, Steven Covey, in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People states that we should begin with the end in mind. To me, this means that I have these precious years to nurture and love my children, but during these years I better not forget to work on becoming the person I want to be because at some point these sweet babies of mine will be grown-ups and I won't be mommy anymore. Being a mother is the greatest blessing of my life! I love the opportunity I have to teach and learn from my little ones. My advise: while you are enjoying the blessings of motherhood, don't loose sight of yourself. 

I believe that selfless service to those we love is a privilege. I also believe that caring for ourselves is a necessity.



10 comments:

  1. It is hard to quiet the nagging guilt about doing things for me, not just for my kids. Although, compared to others, I obviously don't mind it THAT much, considering how much time I spend away from them. Haha But you're right, absence makes the heart grow fonder. When I was working, I would be so freaking excited to get out of the house and away from whining kids, but by the end of my shift, I was excited to see them again.

    My mother-in-law always comments on how proud she is of me that I'm continuing to develop my talents and pursue my hobbies, even with small kids. She said that she "lost herself" in just being a mom for so many years, and wishes she had done things differently.

    So I agree with what you said, and thanks for the reminder to keep on keepin on!

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  2. I so need to remember these reasons and how important it is to take me time, and guilt free me time at that! Thank you for a great post.

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  3. Really??? My babies are going to leave me one day??? Love this post. And I clicked on those all caps titles in between. Tricky.

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    1. So happy that you actually found my blog Kristen! ;)

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  4. Such a smart post. I have an almost 2 year old son, and I fully believe in taking "me," time. It's taken me a long time to figure out a good routine and balancing the housework with enjoying myself. Some days, the toys stay on the floor so I can sew for a few minutes. My son loves seeing what I sewed or made during nap time. Even a toddler can be proud of what their mom does during leisure time. I love seeing his smile, and knowing he's proud of me! What a great point to bring up in your post. I never had really thought of that before! I think this helps them know that we are people too---and that it's okay to have hobbies and leisurely activities instead of all work and no play. :)

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